Monthly Musings with Soul Sisters May 2019
Updated: Jun 29
Hi! How have you been? We hope you've been well and everything's going on the up and up for you!
I was woken up at 1am by my phone ringing continuously! The love of my life and the father of my unborn child needed to talk to me. His big Mama had just passed on the previous night, and he needed to hear my voice. He was ok, and trying hard not to crack although I knew this was breaking him up inside. I comforted him and wished I could be with him.
I hung up and said a prayer for the beautiful lady's soul, as now this confirmed the figure who had disturbed my sleep 3 times, and the wierd phone call the previous night when she'd passed on. I was also grateful I'd taken my baby's father's phone call and be there to offer support for him.
If this had happened last week, I would not have received a phone call as he had been on my block list for the previous 5 weeks. "Block list" you ask? Yes on the block list, for lying to me. Do I see a little judgement there? I won't give reasons or justify my actions. Do I love him? Yes. Will I tolerate lies and poor attitudes towards me? No.
My sister Magz said it best when she told me, "sister, only you can teach him how you want to be treated". This goes for everyone, whether it's your partner, parents, children, siblings, friends, bosses, colleagues etc.
What you tolerate, will set the standard by which a person will treat you. It's not selfish or unkind. This is crucial to your own peace and what you attract in all other areas of your life. Be prepared for losses, but also be ready to receive huge Blessings once you come out on the other side of such trials.
Once you send this clear message to the people in your life, the universe also recieves your vibrations of self worth which equates to self love, and so the Universe, God and Angels will send you people who love you for you and who will treat you the way you want and deserve to be treated.
I'm not telling you to block everyone in your life. You only need to affirm how you want your relationships to be and take action if you need to. It can be as simple as telling someone, "I would really appreciate it if you told me the truth when I ask you something," and that may be the turning point in which your relationship gets better.
Well on my relationship plane after 5 weeks of being incommunicado, we've patched things up, with promises of honesty and better behaviour and I can only allow myself and him my forgiveness and eventually regain trust. This is our continuous human cycle...we love, we get hurt, we love again...as long as we do not lose our authentic selves in the process. Be you, be love...until next month...